Seems simple enough right?

Yes, but…lots of people who are deciding about divorce and seeking divorce advice lump the categories of divorce advice into one, and that’s a big mistake. You should seek divorce advice from different types of places for the different types of advice that you need. Certainly there’s more types of divorce advice categories, but here’s a partial list:

Divorce advice type 1:

Legal advice for getting a divorce when you are sure that you want a divorce, no matter how tough it will be to get that divorce.

When asking for this type of divorce advice while meeting with an attorney, you may be asked if you’re certain that you actually do want a divorce…if you do, don’t waver, stick to your decision. It makes sense to have a good idea of all of the parts of your life, family and materials, that could be affected or sought after. You want to have your facts, account names, timelines, etc., in mind when meeting with the attorney so that your discussion is maximized.

Divorce advice type 2:

Legal advice for getting a divorce when you are almost sure that you want a divorce, but want to make sure that the financial considerations are in order or that health of your children won’t suffer in the long run.

When asking for this type of divorce advice, you may want to consider seeking the advice of an attorney or financial planner for the financial considerations and a counselor experienced in family matters for the impact that a divorce might have on your children. The point is, split the two concerns up so that you get the chance to speak to 2 different people who specialize in each area so that you will get the appropriate divorce advice.

Divorce advice type 3:

Legal advice for getting a divorce in a case that is relatively simple and will be a clean break, no financial or other family considerations to take into account for the divorce.

This is perhaps the easiest type of divorce advice to get because it infers that you have already made the decision from an emotional standpoint and really don’t have any other considerations of deep concern. When seeking this type of divorce advice, you most likely have limited financial considerations, a prenuptial agreement, or the situation itself as amenable to everyone and you just need someone to do the paperwork.

Divorce advice type 4:

Legal and/or counseling advice regarding whether or not divorce is right for you from a psychological, emotional and financial perspective.

When asking for this type of divorce advice, you may want to consider seeking the advice of an attorney or financial planner for the financial considerations and a counselor experienced in Clinical Psychology and “personal-life” coaching for the impact that a divorce might have on you. Again, the point is, split the two concerns up so that you get a chance to speak to 2 different people who specialize in each area so that you will get the appropriate divorce advice.

Divorce advice type 5:

Counseling for emotional support when deciding whether or not you really want a divorce or are just unhappy in your marriage due to a marriage problem.

This type of divorce advice is crucial to your happiness because when you’re in an emotional state, it is tough to make lucid and rational decisions. And, if you’re wrestling with deciding whether or not to get a divorce (purely from an emotional perspective), you should do all you can to make a logical decision because how you approach this decision and the affects afterwards can be long lasting and far reaching. If you’re are struggling with finding divorce advice, you may want to talk to friends, counselors, even other family members.

But, my divorce advice to you is, do it yourself.

I’m not saying don’t talk with friends, counselors, and possibly family. What I am suggesting is that you reach the final decision of whether to get a divorce on your own, you have to live with it, no one else. The answer is inside you, you just have to get it out in a logical manner.

Whatever type of divorce advice you need, be sure that you’re directing your energies in the right direction. If you don’t separate the emotional aspects from the legal aspects of divorce advice, you might end up confused and unable to get the most out of any meeting you may have with an attorney or marriage counselor. At the end of the day, you should control your own destiny and make a smart decision based on logic, controlled emotion, and forward thinking.

Author of “A Practical Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not To Get A Divorce”, the eBook recommended by counselors to thier clients. Proven “Actions Items” to help you decide!

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Major Disruptions

The decision to divorce causes major changes in the lives of all family members. Some upheaval is inevitable. The main trouble areas are:

1. Financial: Money becomes a huge problem for most people. The cost of a divorce is extremely high, and two households cost more than one.

2. Career: Being less focused at work and spending time away from the job for divorce-related appointments takes its toll.

3. Logistics: Running your home is more difficult because you no longer have a partner to help with daily chores.

4. Emotional: Most people have periods of depression, sadness, anger, and fatigue.

Lots of Feelings

People who are experiencing the breakup of their marriage can expect to have a wide variety of feelings. Some call it “the crazy time” and there is even a book about divorce with this title. The following complaints are common:

• Poor concentration

• Nightmares

• Sleep problems

• Fatigue

• Mood swings

• Feeling tense

• Nausea

• Gaining/losing weight

• Feeling nervous

• Somatic complaints

Divorce profoundly affects children. In Surviving the Breakup, author Judith Wallerstein describes the experience of 60 divorcing families. She outlines the following key issues for children of divorcing families:

Fear: Divorce is frightening to children, and they often respond with feelings of anxiety. Children feel more vulnerable after a divorce because their world has become less reliable.

Fear of abandonment: One-third of the children in Wallerstein’s study feared that their mother would abandon them.

Confusion: The children in divorcing families become confused about their relationships with their parents. They see their parents’ relationship fall apart and sometimes conclude that their own relationship with one or both parents could dissolve, as well.

Sadness and yearning: More than half of the children in the Wallerstein study were openly tearful and sad in response to the losses they experienced. Two-thirds expressed yearning, for example: “We need a daddy. We don’t have a daddy.”

Worry: In Wallerstein’s study, many children expressed concern about one or both of their parents’ ability to cope with their lives. They wondered if their parents were emotionally stable and able to make it on their own.
Over half of the children expressed deep worries about their mothers. They witnessed their mothers’ mood swings and emotional reactions to the events in the family. Some children worried about suicide and accidents.

Feeling rejected: Many children who experience a parent moving out of the home feel rejected by the parent. The parent is usually preoccupied with problems and pays less attention to the child than in the past. Many children take this personally and feel rejected and unlovable.

Loneliness: Since both parents are preoccupied with their problems during the divorce process, they are less able to fulfill their parenting roles with their children. The children may feel like their parents are slipping away from them. If the father has moved away and the mother has gone off to work, the children often feel profound loneliness.

Divided loyalties: The children may (accurately) perceive that the parents are in a battle with each other. The children feel pulled in both directions and may resolve the dilemma by siding with one parent against another.

Anger: Children in divorcing families experience more aggression and anger. It is often directed toward the parents, expressed in tantrums, irritability, resentment, and verbal attacks. Many children see the divorce as a selfish act and feel very resentful about the resulting destruction of their lives.

More than one-third of the children in Judith Wallerstein’s study showed acute depressive symptoms such as sleeplessness, restlessness, difficulty in concentrating, deep sighing, feelings of emptiness, compulsive overeating, and various somatic complaints.

The symptoms that many children may have during the divorce process either moderate or disappear within 18 months after the breakup. Of the symptoms that remain, the most common are:

1. Manipulative behavior was reported by about 20% of the teachers of the children in Wallerstein’s study.

2. Depression was diagnosed in 25% of the children and adolescents. The symptoms of depression in children include:

• Low self-esteem

• Inability to concentrate

• Sadness

• Mood swings

• Irritability

• Secretiveness

• Isolation

• Self-blame

• Eating disorders

• Behaving perfectly

• Being accident-prone

• Stealing

• Skipping school

• Underachieving at school

• Sexual acting out

You should consider finding a therapist to work with if most of the time you feel:

• Alone

• Depressed

• Numb

• Exhausted

• Isolated

• Hopeless

• Overwhelmed by your children

• Overwhelmed by your feelings

• You are sleeping too much or too little

• Worried

• Anxious

• Afraid

Garrett Coan is a professional therapist,coach and psychotherapist. His two Northern New Jersey office locations are accessible to individuals who reside in Bergen County, Essex County, Passaic County, Rockland County, and Manhattan. He offers online and telephone coaching and counseling services for those who live at a distance. He can be accessed through http://www.creativecounselors.com or 201-303-4303.

You should not worry about tradition, or what your friends and your family like. If you and your groom pay for everything, you need to be much less concerned with what other people think of your location. If your parents pay for it, your decision should be much more democratic.

Most importantly, you’ll want to create an environment that will be unique and memorable for you and your guests. It sounds simple, but it is easier said than done. To be successful, you must be very clear about what you are looking for in a venue. Are you looking for an intimate environment, do you want to get married on a sandy beach, in a five star hotel or in your parents house you grew up in?

Even though churches are the most common wedding ceremony locations, it is OK to look elsewhere. There is an endless list of possibilities for wedding ceremony locations. You may decide to have your ceremony held at a hotel ballroom, a beautiful house, a club house, a botanical garden, a romantic beach, a park, and the list goes on-and-on.

It may be beneficial to have the wedding ceremony and the reception in the same physical location. It can not only simplify, but also serve as a money saving idea.

Remember, if you select a popular location there will be many other couples interested, so you should schedule as early as possible. The sooner you start your search the more options you will have.

You should have the following list at hand when considering a wedding reception/ceremony venue:
Cost – The cost of the venue and amount of deposit required are crucial details.
Food Cost – How much is food per person.

Capacity – You should make sure the facility could accommodate the number of guest you are inviting.
Cancellation Policy – How much time in advance you have to cancel in case you change your mind? Music – What are the rules and regulations about noise and music?

Access – Do they have handicap access? Is there public transportation available?

George Meszaros www.sweet-reflections.com

The Better Sleep Council recommends six things you should consider before buying the mattress:

• Support is critical as you should have a mattress that keeps your spine in a good standing posture.

• Make sure the comfort level is such where you feel you can be close to each other without bothering one another.

• You expect your mattress to last a long time as it is not an inexpensive purchase. Keep turning it, and vacuum it off occasionally. If you are concerned about dust mites, you may even want to encase it in plastic. Ask yourself in a few years if it is still supportive and comfortable to you. If not, you might want to opt for a new set.

• Buy the right size. If you need space as we all do, opt for at least a queen size bed. King-size mattresses are unwieldy and will take up more space in a master bedroom, but you might require more room, especially if you and your mate are tall or heavy set.

• Do buy a matching sleep set. These are made for each other and you won’t get the wear from the mattress you desire if you don’t match it up to the box spring.

• Buy the best that you can afford. Now is not the time to skimp on a purchase because a cheap mattress will not be comfortable at all. It won’t take you long in the rest test to tell the comfortable mattresses from the ones that feel like cardboard.

Mattresses and marriage are made to stay together. We spend so much of our life in bed that we need to have the most comfortable, supportive mattress on the market that we can afford. Isn’t this like the partner you have chosen? They are supportive and comfortable to be with so mattresses and marriage can truly be a match made in heaven.

Bev Marshall is a successful freelance writer offering guidance and suggestions for consumers buying mattresses, comforters, bedding, duvet covers and more. Her many articles can be found at http://www.bedding-4u.com/Mattress.htm . She gives information and tips at http://www.bedding-4u.com/ to help you save money, make informed buying decisions and common sense ideas for changing your life.

When you talk to your beloved, you talk not only with your words, but with your eyes and your body language. Everything takes part in communication with your sweetheart. How does one talk to one’s beloved? Most of the lovers swoon at the sight of their beloved. How do we expect them to talk? But their sweetheart wants to talk and they want to talk. They both want to share everything in each other’s life. They share their dreams, they share their agonies and pains and they share their goals and failures. They share everything, because they are two bodies, but one heart.

Romance has its own flavor, a different flavor. Romance is a different emotion compared to all other emotions. It’s much different compared to emotions such as anger etc. They are all negative, but romance is a positive emotion or feeling. In romance, one ignores every fault of his/her sweetheart and only finds everything good and glorifies it. In love, the afternoon sun is as beautiful as the sun set. Such is the wonder of romance that it changes a person totally.

Coming back to communication, how does one do it in romance? Does one convey love every day? Does one talk only of love and nothing else. Otherwise it may kill the romantic mood! Does one only dream of good things and avoid every talk of anything negative? What and how does one communicate while romancing? Yes, it is true that most of the romantic lovers talk only of positive things and avoid everything negative. It is also true that talk is mostly about love, because they are romancing. Isn’t it? It is true that the couples dream of great things and avoid contemplating any negatives.

Romance is different. In romancing there is no place for anything that may kill the mood. Romance means talking of the moon, and not the sun. But you can talk of sun sets. Romance does not think about the fate of fallen flowers , but only admires the beauty of flowers smiling on the branch. Romance is different and it is great. The world already has innumerable problems, and romance is much needed to create a positive atmosphere. Romance is a dream.

To know more about romance, why not go in the mood yourself and experience it?

Mohatta writes about different aspect of life. Love, inspiration, pains, humanity, truth etc. He is currently dedicated content writer for http://www.screenenetwork.com network.One of the websites for which he writes text for the eCards, Wallpapers and Screensavers is http://www.cupidecards.com

First up, choose a date and time. Unless it is a surprise, consult the bride to be to find a date suitable to her schedule. The most appropriate time table is four to six weeks before the wedding. If most of the planned guests work, a weekend shower would be the best course of action. Everyone will be more relaxed, less rushed and apt to enjoy themselves. A Saturday may work better to accommodate guests that attend church on Sundays. Select a time that will allow guests time to ready themselves in the morning, yet not cut into evening plans. Afternoons seem to be the most popular choice. Plan for an hour and a half to two hours.

Send out invitations two to three weeks in advance. This will allow guests to clear their schedules and find the perfect gift. Include any special instructions, directions and contact numbers.

Once times and the date are chosen, the next consideration is location. Keep in mind the number of guests, type of party, the budget and times. Some ideas include a private residence, apartment clubhouse, restaurant or community center. Keep in mind whether reservations and a deposit are required. Also ask what time you will be allowed in. Some locations will give you extra time to decorate and set up, others will not. Agree on the time you need the building or room accordingly.

If you have co-hosts, now is the time to get together and make some decisions. Do you plan to have a theme? Plan decorations, favors, games and food around it. A theme can even extend to the invitations and name tags! Letting the guests in on the fun, they may have instant gift ideas. Once a theme, or lack of one, has been decided, it will make planning much easier from here on out.

For the guest list, anyone on the wedding guest list may be included. If you lack space and funds, shorten your list to close friends and family.

Decide on the food that will be served. Plan a menu beforehand so that you may compare prices and quality. Sample all food items if you are ordering or having the party catered. This will save unnecessary embarrassment at the last minute. If you have placed an order well in advance, contact the caterer or store the week of the shower to solidify arrangements. And whatever you do, don’t forget the cake!

Games should be fun to plan and simple to do. Choose games that match the theme. There are books as well as websites with a multitude of game ideas.

Once the date arrives, you may enlist some of the guests to assist. Ask one or two to be in charge of the games. Have another record gifts and keep track of the cards. They will feel included and you will have more time to enjoy your efforts. Relax, put on a smile and have fun!

Decorating Your Reception Tables

Begin by laying down the perfect base. Sprinkle snowflake confetti on each of the tables. To make the confetti pop and stand out on a white tablecloth, be sure to purchase iridescent snowflake confetti. Mix and match sizes and colors for variety.
Once the confetti is down, decide on your centerpieces. Here are some great ideas:

12 ” Ice Sculptures - Use the traditional swan, a poinsettia, snowman, large snow flake or a bride and groom replica

Wicker Tree – Go to you local craft store to find this item. Decorate the tree with lights, and for an extra personal touch, leave blank note cards & pre-cut ribbon for your guests to write their well wishes on, and then tie to the tree.

12″ Miniature Doe/fawn – We recommend finding ones made of twigs or branches. Also decorate these with lights.

Candles – Purchase white round or square pillar candles (mix and match the heights and sizes) and tall glass candle holders. Decorate the outside of the candle holder by first drawing patterns on the outside of the glass with a glue stick. Then sprinkle the holder in glitter (we recommend any combination of white, silver and blue glitter). After placing the candle in the holder, decorate the bottom of the holder by adding pine cones (also decorated with glitter), Holly or any other winter related decorations.

Mystic Crystals – Use a large wide mouthed bowl as the centerpiece. In it, place mystic crystals to mimic the effect of snow. On top of the crystals, place small white votive candles.

Other Ideas

Encircle your centerpieces with a short string of white lights.

Use snow globes as favors, or simply to decorate the table.

Give white and blue coated candies as favors. Package them in a silver tin, topped off with a white or blue personalized satin ribbon.

And don’t forget to accessorize the rest of your wedding with your Winter Wonderland Theme!

Venessa Regali has a background in marketing; she received her MBA from Seton Hall University in 2002. She writes informative pieces for her website http://www.rosepetalweddingfavors.com

To purchase the snowflake confetti, Mystic Crystals, favor tins or personalized ribbon mentioned in the article visit Rose Petal Wedding Favors.

For more winter favor ideas, winter wedding favors and winter wedding accessories, visit Rose Petal Wedding Favors

For those in the throes of planning such a wedding, it is important to look for the perfect summer wedding theme for your own special ceremony.

Determine The Nature Of The wedding Theme

One of the most important parts of planning the perfect summer wedding theme is to determine the nature of the wedding ceremony that is best for your own needs.

There are many different types of weddings, of course, and it is important to determine the type of ceremony that best suits your own needs.

Some brides to be will enjoy having a casual wedding ceremony surrounded by a few close family members and friends, while others will prefer to have a large, formal wedding at the best country club in town.

It is important to match the type of ceremony to the needs and wants of the bride to be, and not to be influenced by outside forces. The wedding, after all, is all about the happy couple, and it is important to choose the type of ceremony carefully.

Using Publications To Help You Find A Theme

After you know what type of ceremony best suits your own needs, it is important to start searching for the perfect summer wedding theme.

If you are in the middle of planning a wedding, chances are good that you already have plenty of wedding planning guides and bridal magazines lying around, and these publications can be the perfect way to gather lots of ideas for the perfect summer wedding theme.

The Internet Is Full Of Resources

In addition to these publications there are of course plenty of different summer wedding theme ideas on the internet, and the internet can be a great way to research lots of great wedding themes in a short period of time.

No matter what type of wedding ceremony you prefer, however, it is important to start planning that wedding as early as possible.

Shaunta Pleasant is a professional writer and editor on wedding topics. Visit my site to learn more about planning the perfect wedding at
http://www.best-wedding-plan.com/spring_wedding_theme.html

Whilst for many couples designing your own personal wedding ceremony can be an exciting and memorable occasion, it is normally best to just tweak the Standard Ceremony wording a little and add in one or two readings/poems to suite your own particular individual desires.

The standard ceremony has been used for years; it flows nicely and is well received by guests. It lasts for about 15 minutes and the balance of the time is then made up of your chosen reading/s and the signing of the Certificates of Marriage.

When readings/poems are added to the ceremony and read by family members or guests this has always been a winner. Background music, maybe a single violin or the like, playing whilst the ceremony takes place can also be a winner. You can also add a theme like a Rose Ceremony etc. It is very nice where the couple design their own wedding vows and read them themselves (not repeating after me).

When considering your ceremony options, bare in mind how long you want your ceremony to last for. The best way to check the length is to open a new word page and then cut and paste sections into it, under the headers that have been set out below in the Standard Ceremony. Read it back to yourself slowly whilst timing it. Remember to repeat the vows, as they will be repeated by you in the ceremony, and remember to allow time for the exchanging of ring/s. The signing the Certificates of Marriage after the ceremony can last 5-10 minutes (as guests take photographs) so if you want your ceremony to last for say 25 minutes in total, you would put together wording that lasts for about 15-20 minutes.

If you want to make changes to the Standard Wedding Ceremony, please e-mail me your final wedding ceremony wording, as a word document, at least 10 days before the date of your wedding. If I do not receive it by then I will use the Standard Ceremony, plus a couple of readings of my choice.

Right, so now you’re ready to get started – below is the Standard Ceremony

Good Luck and Have Fun!

Tim Addison

TIM’S STANDARD WEDDING CEREMONY

WELCOME

Family and Friends, on behalf of GROOM and BRIDE I would like to welcome you all here today and I call upon you to be fellow witnesses with me in their marriage.

We are not here to only witness their commitment to each other, but also to wish them well and every happiness in their life together.

My name is Tim Addison and I am authorized by law to solemnize marriages according to law.

GROOM and BRIDE believe that marriage is founded on the sort of sincerity and understanding, that leads to tolerance, confidence and trust.

They also believe that those qualities that have attracted them to each other can best be developed during a life spent together.

We celebrate with them the love they have discovered in each other, and we support their decision to commit themselves to one another for the rest of their lives.

A happy marriage will enable them to establish a home where there will be love and stability, where you, their family and their friends, will find welcome, peace and support, and which will be a base from which the influence of their life can extend.

SPECIAL MENTIONS

GROOM and BRIDE have asked me to make a special mention of thanks to…………………… who have ……………………
Insert details of people who have assisted with putting the wedding together, travelled long distances to attend, etc.
You may also want to mention loved ones who could not make it to the wedding or who have passed on.

MARRIAGE DECLARATION

Now GROOM and BRIDE…

Before you are joined in marriage in my presence and in the presence of these witnesses, I am to remind you of the solemn and binding nature of the relationship into which you are now about to enter.

Marriage, according to law in Australia, is the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.

If anyone here present knows of any legal reason as to why these two persons may not be joined together in marriage, let them speak now or forever hold their peace………..

READING BY TIM

GROOM and BRIDE….

Love is patient; love is kind.

Love is not envious or boastful

or arrogant or rude.

It does not insist on its own way:

it is not irritable or resentful;

it does not rejoice in wrong doing,

but rejoices in truth.

Love bears all things,

believes all things,

hopes all things, endures all things

And now faith, hope, and love abide,

and the greatest of these is love.

GIVING AWAY BRIDE

Who brings this Woman to be married to this Man?

Person giving away says “I Do”, places BRIDE’s hand into GROOM’s hand and then he returns to the other guests.

CHEROKEE PRAYER

Can be done as a Reading or as a Prayer

God in heaven above please protect the ones we love.

We honour all you created as we pledge our hearts and lives together.

We honour mother-earth – and ask for this marriage to be abundant and grow stronger through the seasons;

We honour fire – and ask that their union be warm and glowing with love in their hearts;

We honour wind – and ask they sail though life safe and calm as in their father’s arms;

We honour water – to clean and soothe their relationship – that it may never thirst for love;

With all the forces of the universe you created, we pray for harmony and true happiness as they forever grow young together.

THE ASKING

Tim to GROOM:

GROOM do you take BRIDE to be your lawfully wedded wife,

will you love her, comfort her, honour and keep her, in sickness and in health and forsaking all others keep only unto her, so long as you both shall live?

GROOM Replies – “I DO”

Tim to BRIDE:

BRIDE will you take GROOM to be your lawfully wedded husband,

will you love him, comfort him, honour and keep him, in sickness and in health and forsaking all others keep only unto him, so long as you both shall live?

BRIDE Replies – “I DO”

GROOM and BRIDE as the two of you come into this marriage uniting you as husband and wife, and as you this day affirm your faith and love for one another, I would ask that you always remember to cherish each other as special and unique individuals, that you respect the thoughts, ideas and suggestions of one another. Be able to forgive, do not hold grudges, and live each day that you may share it together – as from this day forward you shall be each other’s home, comfort and refuge, your marriage strengthened by your love and respect for each other.

VOWS – Whilst the purple words below cannot be changed, the words in black can. See options below and then copy and paste your chosen vows or write your own.

GROOM, Please repeat after me.

I call upon the persons here present

to witness that I, GROOM,

take thee, BRIDE,

to be my lawful wedded Wife.

To have and to hold,

from this day forward,

for better or for worse,

for richer or for poorer,

in sickness and in health,

while we both shall live.

And, BRIDE, will you now also please repeat after me.

I call upon the persons here present

to witness that I, BRIDE,

take thee, GROOM,

to be my lawful wedded Husband

To have and to hold,

from this day forward,

for better or for worse,

for richer or for poorer,

in sickness and in health,

while we both shall live.

POEM READ BY TIMMay your mornings bring joy and your evenings bring peace.May your troubles grow few as your blessings increase.May the saddest day of your futureBe no worse than the happiest day of your past.May your hands be forever held in friendshipAnd your hearts joined forever in love.
RING CEREMONY

GROOM and BRIDE, what token of your love do you offer? Pause for rings to be given to Tim
Would you place the rings in my hand?

Ring Blessing

May these rings represent your love for one another. These two lives are now joined in one unbroken circle. Wherever they go – may they always return to one another. May these two find in each other the love for which all men and women yearn. May they grow in understanding and in compassion. May the home which they establish together be such a place that many will find there a friend. May these rings on their fingers symbolise their love.

Rings are then handed back to the ring bearer/s

GROOM, please place your ring on BRIDES finger and repeat after me.

BRIDE, with this ring, I thee wed

Take it and wear it

as a token of my love

and as a symbol of all we share

BRIDE, please place your ring on GROOMS finger and repeat after me.

GROOM, with this ring, I thee wed

Take it and wear it

as a token of my love

and as a symbol of all we share

The vows that have been exchanged by GROOM and BRIDE have been offered in our hearing, but words are fleeting and the sound of them are soon gone. Therefore the wedding ring becomes an enduring symbol of the promises that have been made.

May these wedding rings be a reminder to GROOM and BRIDE of the vows they have shared today and a witness to all the world of their commitment in marriage.

BLESSING THE MARRIAGE

(Apache Blessing)

Now you will fell no rain, for each of you will the shelter for the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be the warmth to the other. Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you. Go now to your dwelling, to enter into the days of your life together, and may your days be good and long upon the earth.

Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficult and fear assail your relationship – as they threaten all relationships at one time or another – remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part which seems wrong. In this way, you can ride out the storms when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives – remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight

DECLARATION OF MARRIAGE

Family and Friends…

GROOM and BRIDE have declared before all of us that they will live together in marriage. Marriage is an act of faith and a personal commitment as well as a moral and physical union between two people. Marriage has been described as the best and most important relationship that can exist between them. It is a moral commitment that requires and deserves daily attention.

GROOM and BRIDE have made special promises to each other. They have symbolised them by joining hands, taking vows and by the giving and receiving of rings.
So therefore by the authority vested in me, it is my great honour and privilege to declare them to be husband and wife.

GROOM, You may now kiss your wife.

PRONOUNCEMENT

Ladies and Gentlemen…… GROOM and BRIDE, husband and wife!

Tim Addison – http://www.marriages.net.au

Designing Your Wedding Ceremony
by
Tim Addison
Civil Marriage Celebrant
www.marriages.net.au

Although some may still consult the tarot cards, most couples decide together which season is for them. Each season has its own flavor and style for a wedding. Which season you choose will not only affect the flavor of your wedding it will affect your pocket book as well.

Different seasons have different costs for reception areas, rentals, the location, and even your honeymoon destination. So when choosing your season be aware of this.

Spring and summer weddings offer you the freshness of a new season with mother nature looking her very best. Early season wedding can enjoy Narcissus hybrids, daffodils, tulips, and hyacinth. While summer offers more abundance with a wonderful mix of color and shape. Flowers such as roses, tady’s mantle, Crysanthermums, goldenrod, alliums, peonies, phox, sweet William, sweet peas, and sunflowers are readily available. You’ll have no trouble find flowers in season that will look gorgeous! This really helps keep the florist cost down as well.

You can use driftwood or fern to on your tables to soften the bold colors of your flowers. You can even add some in season fruits such as peaches, cherries, or citrus fruits.

One of the most popular attractions these days is a chocolate fountain fondu. In fact it is being used all seasons. The deep rich chocolate flows from top to bottom on the fountain while delicious strawberries circle the base for dipping. Mmm good! Champagne and chocolate dipped strawberries is also another popular choice for spring and summer weddings.

Spring and summer weddings offer more options for location and reception. An outside wedding and reception can be a lot cheaper. A beach wedding with a BBQ style reception is very affordable and growing in popularity.

Destinations for your honeymoon can save you a pile of money if you choose places that in their off season. Mind you the temperatures will be extremely hot during these months. If you can take the heat there are some great buys!

As autumn approaches the colors turn to rich gold and copper hues. An autumn wedding can very easily look rich, warm, and inviting accenting the already existing autumn colors. Use the beautiful shades of purples, yellows, and russets to add rich earthy tones to your wedding. You can use natural foliage such as fern or ivy to accent your flowers. Choosing flowers in season will save you plenty!

In your menu be sure to use fruits that are in season such as apples and pears. Keep your menu down to earth and fitting with the season. Use colors on your tables that work with the autumn season.

Autumn is actually a very popular choice for weddings. More than you might think, so be sure to book your reception area and ceremony spot early.

When planning a vacation you will need to shop around and see what you can find at a reasonable price. This time of year is a popular travel time for adults that have no children and enjoy the peace and quiet that returns when the kids are back in school.

When we think of winter we tend to think of cold but winter is actually the most romantic time of year to get married. Burning logs in the fires, sipping wine, and the beautiful crisp whiteness surrounding. Of course you will have to have your wedding indoors in the winter.

Take advantage of the season and adorn your reception area in holly, berries, ivy, candles, and other Christmas like festivities. Include some white geisha, snowdrops, and amaryllis in your flowers. Add some apricots, dates, and other winter fruits to your tables.

Right after Christmas you can save allot on reception areas. Many hotels have a dramatic decrease in prices right after the busy season. New Years Eve weddings are becoming quite popular as they are such a festive and fun time already. Hotels and reception space can be a bit expensive for a New Years Eve gathering but if you are having your reception at a home it’s a great idea.

You have many options for winter honeymoon getaways. You can head to the mountains for a ski trip, head to warmer air like the Carribean or Hawaii, or take an exotic trip to Asia. Be warned flights through the month of December are very pricey but during January there are some good deals to be found.

What ever season you are planning to have your wedding the most important thing to remember is not to stress! Your wedding day will be perfect in every way. What’s really important is that friends and family are present to help you celebrate your union with your loved one!

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